The problem is the difference between the way foster parent and grandparent indeed commonplace. Occasionally, a parent who tries to educate the young for the discipline of having to compromise with the attitude of The Grandmothers who want to spoil her grandchildren. Or, it could be otherwise. You spoil the child while your parents are very hard and discipline to his grandson. In fact, oftentimes You rebuked because parenting is judged wrong.
According to the family psychologist Anna Surti Ariani, Psi, a difference parenting indeed might just happen. "Everyone has a different tendency when treating the grandchildren or the fruit of his heart. Not even if it is not possible to apply a pattern of parenting that discipline to his son, but instead behaved very indulging in his grandson, "says psychologist familiar saluted Nina.
Warm and close
Although each individual has different ways, however parenting trends of old-style thick with rigid discipline. In that sense, the child does not have a lot of options and penalties given to each deemed guilty seems commonplace.
"Until the flow of Behaviorism was invented and popularized in the community, resulting in the notion that good parenting is not always condemn, but also give praise. So more to reward and punishment, "Frank Nina.
Nina then added, the discovery in the world of parenting mentioned that attachment parent and child is very important. "On top of any kind of parenting, the most important is the warmth, closeness, and a sense of affection between mother and child, which carries with it the obvious limitations. If parent and child attachment pattern is strong, your little one will not be affected by parenting other people's imposed on him, "added Nina.
Should be consistent
Sometimes, the attitude of a parent who interferes with the way you raise fruit heart feels intrusive. You are trapped in a dilemma. On the one hand, the familiarity of the grandmother with her grandson is so you would expect. On the other hand, you are also worried about the little one will be confused by the treatment or different rules.
According to Nina, this kind of anxiety is unnecessary. "A difference parenting You and your parents who impose on the little one can thus stimulate the social aspect of the fruit of the heart. He will get a lesson about how to distinguish between the behavior of people who deserved and behave on different people. Then, it helps him learn about social development, "said Nina. It would also be useful for the fruit at a later date.
One thing that is important and often overlooked is to maintain consistency. "You have to be consistent on parenting that have been put in place so that it can settle in the minds of children. Do not allow to this day, tomorrow is prohibited. If you impose a parenting discipline with consistent, gradually the child will know that it is expected of you and he'll try to stick with it, "said Nina.
And no matter if you are banned but the grandmother or the great-grandfather permits because it will benefit the child. "He will be rich with nuances of individual differences," says Nina.
Don't be a
The more frequent interaction between grandmother and granddaughter did enlarge the difference parenting received pieces of heart. As a parent, you keep the most reserves the right to determine what should be applied to the minor. "So if the grandparents, parents, and children living under one roof, you should be careful and take advantage of the private area to the maximum extent possible," said Nina.
Call it if the fruit of careful looking tantrum. Grandma or Grandpa insisted on carrying on the fruit of the heart and granted his wish. While you have your own way to relieve tantrums. Before your parents intervene, take heart to the fruit room and invite him to talk to her crying subsided.
"After Your Affairs and fruit hearts, fresh out of the room. The reason, on whoever you are comes to rely on caregiving grandparents, either on or on a nanny, but still mother and child need special time to thicken the bond, "he explained.
While when you start feeling too many parents lend a hand in dealing with the little one, you do not need to create distance between you and your parents are the fruit of the heart. "Fernando's parents, instead of just giving. The reason, if you are close with your parents and parents viewed the treatment You are firmly but lovingly on the fruit of the heart, for example, ultimately parents will respect you and trust that you apply patterns of parenting, "said Nina full of confidence.
Nina is not denied that the process of making your parents believe it does require time and patience. But in the end, if the parenting that you believe is proven to bring results agreeable on the fruit of the heart, your parents will trust and respect You.
According to the family psychologist Anna Surti Ariani, Psi, a difference parenting indeed might just happen. "Everyone has a different tendency when treating the grandchildren or the fruit of his heart. Not even if it is not possible to apply a pattern of parenting that discipline to his son, but instead behaved very indulging in his grandson, "says psychologist familiar saluted Nina.
Warm and close
Although each individual has different ways, however parenting trends of old-style thick with rigid discipline. In that sense, the child does not have a lot of options and penalties given to each deemed guilty seems commonplace.
"Until the flow of Behaviorism was invented and popularized in the community, resulting in the notion that good parenting is not always condemn, but also give praise. So more to reward and punishment, "Frank Nina.
Nina then added, the discovery in the world of parenting mentioned that attachment parent and child is very important. "On top of any kind of parenting, the most important is the warmth, closeness, and a sense of affection between mother and child, which carries with it the obvious limitations. If parent and child attachment pattern is strong, your little one will not be affected by parenting other people's imposed on him, "added Nina.
Should be consistent
Sometimes, the attitude of a parent who interferes with the way you raise fruit heart feels intrusive. You are trapped in a dilemma. On the one hand, the familiarity of the grandmother with her grandson is so you would expect. On the other hand, you are also worried about the little one will be confused by the treatment or different rules.
According to Nina, this kind of anxiety is unnecessary. "A difference parenting You and your parents who impose on the little one can thus stimulate the social aspect of the fruit of the heart. He will get a lesson about how to distinguish between the behavior of people who deserved and behave on different people. Then, it helps him learn about social development, "said Nina. It would also be useful for the fruit at a later date.
One thing that is important and often overlooked is to maintain consistency. "You have to be consistent on parenting that have been put in place so that it can settle in the minds of children. Do not allow to this day, tomorrow is prohibited. If you impose a parenting discipline with consistent, gradually the child will know that it is expected of you and he'll try to stick with it, "said Nina.
And no matter if you are banned but the grandmother or the great-grandfather permits because it will benefit the child. "He will be rich with nuances of individual differences," says Nina.
Don't be a
The more frequent interaction between grandmother and granddaughter did enlarge the difference parenting received pieces of heart. As a parent, you keep the most reserves the right to determine what should be applied to the minor. "So if the grandparents, parents, and children living under one roof, you should be careful and take advantage of the private area to the maximum extent possible," said Nina.
Call it if the fruit of careful looking tantrum. Grandma or Grandpa insisted on carrying on the fruit of the heart and granted his wish. While you have your own way to relieve tantrums. Before your parents intervene, take heart to the fruit room and invite him to talk to her crying subsided.
"After Your Affairs and fruit hearts, fresh out of the room. The reason, on whoever you are comes to rely on caregiving grandparents, either on or on a nanny, but still mother and child need special time to thicken the bond, "he explained.
While when you start feeling too many parents lend a hand in dealing with the little one, you do not need to create distance between you and your parents are the fruit of the heart. "Fernando's parents, instead of just giving. The reason, if you are close with your parents and parents viewed the treatment You are firmly but lovingly on the fruit of the heart, for example, ultimately parents will respect you and trust that you apply patterns of parenting, "said Nina full of confidence.
Nina is not denied that the process of making your parents believe it does require time and patience. But in the end, if the parenting that you believe is proven to bring results agreeable on the fruit of the heart, your parents will trust and respect You.
