Couples need to keep the mood remains good to have healthy relationships. This means that You and he had to have ear width for mutual listening. Also pay attention when you talk about him or something. In addition to keeping each other also, respond to, and show affection.A healthy relationship is the couple's dream, then what happens if your spouse is the figure of the narcissist ? Narcissist is a clinical term that relates to the selfish. Susan Heitler, PhD, clinical psychologist from Harvard said, people who are Narcissist just put forward his desire, tend not to care about what other people want.
Should recognize the sign si Narcissist so that you can keep and he remains always positive mood. If positive mood, ability to listen and show affection can also arise by itself.
1. regardless of the feelings, desires or your mind.
What she wanted, she thinks, feels, he believes, is what counts for him. Does that mean the he's not paying attention (let alone seriously) on what you have to say about your wishes and your mind to something. Especially if You have a contrast with him, don't hope he will listen. Rather than accept what others say, the Narcissist will always be the end of an idea or the opinions of others and just want to listen to himself.
2. always about me.
To identify it, si he always just dominate the conversation. She feels most know everything, always right, and cannot stop talking without giving chance to other people to speak his opinion. "Sometimes people Narcissist it generously. But problems began to appear when their desire opposite each other to your liking, because everything has to be about them, not you desire and necessity, "explained Heitler.
3. do not want to set up.
The rule only applies to other people instead of the Narcissist. So they feel may have been having an affair, has been in the queue, do whatever you want regardless of rules of the game and even etiquette. According to Heitler Narcissist people felt he was more special, more than others, so the rules don't apply to him.
4. do not want to hear of your problems.
The she felt offended if you force them to listen to any problems or complaints about their fate. When you just need a friend cooking for him all that you speak is criticism against him. So do not be surprised when he will "attack" instead of listening to complaints about their fate. Don't expect any sympathy much less support from them when you express anxiety or sadness, as well as other emotions. Because the he does not want to switch attention from him to you, so this makes it behave as though it had no mercy towards You.
5. blame it on You.
When you and she experienced something that does not meet expectations or plans, she will direct the blame you for everything that happened. Si he inevitably is responsible for what is happening, and don't expect the he would apologize.
6. He's angry, it's wrong.
When she is angry because something thing, easily the he'll appoint You as a trigger for his emotions. Words such as, "you make me angry. I'm angry because you ...! " Blame someone else become a way for the Narcissist to keep his pride.
According to Heitler, Narcissist can happen to anyone. So also note whether you have such traits. Lest, instead of just the one who Narcissist, you did so. "Narcissism is basically a pattern of habits, and habits can be changed," he explained.
So what if behind all things ominously from the one who Narcissist, you really love her? Heitler advises, don't panic easily face the Narcissist. Be more quiet, do not effortlessly carried the emotion to it, and give it time for cool down when he was angry.
