People often assume that along with the development of the age of the fruit of the heart, they can overcome shyness. However, the results of research at Vanderbilt University, published in the journal Social Cognitive and Affective Neuroscience, February 2012 indicates that it is not true.
Shame is the way someone in expressing a sense of not familiar with the new environment. If shame is brought from the nature of the personality of the person, the environment does not support can make children become less active and do not want to get involved in activities in the vicinity.
This is where parents should play a role removes properties from a shy child with so your little one can adjust to his new environment and more confident. Here are some ways that can be done as described: circleofmoms
1. don't give ' Label ' in children
"If you always say to other people if your child is a shy person, eat your little one will feel and trust that he is indeed a figure that shy," explains Alison s., Renowned pediatrician and parenting expert. In expressing the behavior of the child, make words that are more neutral and not judge or judge it.
2. give support in children
The fruit of your heart knowing that he is a child who is shy. Rather than cover it, better push him to become more confident. Don't take consider the nature of the pemalunya it is not normal, so that the child is not about that too.
3. Recommend to the Children that have never been Done
Protect your heart from the fruit of the experience which he had never done the recommended is not the solution. But this also does not mean you force them to do things that he feared because it could cause anxiety or trauma.
When he tries something new, accompany the child. For example when he entered the class of the new schools when the new academic year, or accompany him on his friend's birthday party. Your presence with him, can make her feel more comfortable and familiar with such activities. In addition, try to also invite your child to follow activities that can help eliminate the shy properties. For example, sports, dancing lessons and others that allow children to appear in public through his ability.
4. help your Child Develop Confidence
For some parents who feared is not the shy nature of belonging to a child, but was afraid if the fruit of the heart is not able to decide his/her preferences and just followed his friends.
Sharon Silver, Parenting Coach and contributor RoundUp says in his book ' The Key to Building Your child's Self Esteem ', create conditions that can build child confidence to give it tasks that she could do well. For example telling him to choose and order the food she liked in her favorite restaurant. This made him more confident and more independent.
5. Teach the basic skills of Heart Fruits in Socializing
The shy child will be hard to socialize with people around him. Therefore start by teaching basic things such as looking at the person and speak with a louder voice. If he is used to doing things like that, he'll do it as well as socializing in the surrounding environment. Once the children have started to grow up, invite him to follow activities that can cultivate their ability to socialize like theater, drama classes or clubs that can foster a belief in himself.
The shame may be biological, but doesn't mean it should affect the growing flower child. With the understanding and support of the parent, the child will learn gradually to overcome shyness.
